DDJ on Nostr: While, "once a parent, always a parent" is a truism, as a parent, you can't want a ...
While, "once a parent, always a parent" is a truism, as a parent, you can't want a healthy sustainable (emotionally, financially, psychologically) relationship more than your child.
If your child is unwilling to follow your advice on budgeting, drug use (read: addiction - this includes binge addicts), and healthy intimate relationships, financially supporting them is just paying for the privilege of enabling their self destruction.
Lots of millennials and Gen Zers piss their money away living a champagne lifestyle on a ramen budget...then are pissed when they can't do it. In my life, I've seen men go from poverty to wealthy (read: financially independent)..but they worked daylight to midnight to do it. Once wealthy, they didn't piss their money away, and they surely didn't give it to kids they knew would piss it away.
Fun Facts:
-An IPhone isn't a necessity.
-Home internet isn't a necessity.
-Eating out (including door dash/ubereats/Amazon grocery) are luxuries... Always were.
-Streaming video services are luxuries
One's only necessities are 1) shelter, 2) enough food to avoid starvation (overweight Gen Z and Millennials, looking at you), transport to/from work (new cars are luxuries), and the ability to keep you, your living space and clothing clean and maintained...everything else is a luxury and unnecessry.
I've known single guys who were millennial and Gen Z who worked two menial jobs, lived simply, and after a couple years, bought homes outright.
It can be done, but one must prioritize the grindset over the whineset.
If your child is unwilling to follow your advice on budgeting, drug use (read: addiction - this includes binge addicts), and healthy intimate relationships, financially supporting them is just paying for the privilege of enabling their self destruction.
Lots of millennials and Gen Zers piss their money away living a champagne lifestyle on a ramen budget...then are pissed when they can't do it. In my life, I've seen men go from poverty to wealthy (read: financially independent)..but they worked daylight to midnight to do it. Once wealthy, they didn't piss their money away, and they surely didn't give it to kids they knew would piss it away.
Fun Facts:
-An IPhone isn't a necessity.
-Home internet isn't a necessity.
-Eating out (including door dash/ubereats/Amazon grocery) are luxuries... Always were.
-Streaming video services are luxuries
One's only necessities are 1) shelter, 2) enough food to avoid starvation (overweight Gen Z and Millennials, looking at you), transport to/from work (new cars are luxuries), and the ability to keep you, your living space and clothing clean and maintained...everything else is a luxury and unnecessry.
I've known single guys who were millennial and Gen Z who worked two menial jobs, lived simply, and after a couple years, bought homes outright.
It can be done, but one must prioritize the grindset over the whineset.