Roman Simon on Nostr: Childhood shapes the course of our lives. Whatever happens during those early years ...
Childhood shapes the course of our lives. Whatever happens during those early years becomes ingrained in our minds as reality.
Without the experience or understanding of how the world works, without guidance from someone mature who can help us navigate life, and without a clear vision of our future, we encounter difficult and dangerous situations. In response, we draw conclusions about ourselves, our worth, the world, and our place in it. These conclusions form our worldview, which few people question as they grow older.
I had a difficult childhood with no one to look up to. The defensive and misguided conclusions I made during those years led me to a miserable life as an adult. It took many years of struggle, dissatisfaction, fear, defeat, rejection, and then self-exploration to confront these beliefs and begin to change my life.
One by one, as I encountered situations that triggered intense emotions, I would mentally revisit them, replaying and analyzing those experiences to draw new conclusions based on my current understanding. This process is long, uncomfortable, even painful, and intensive — but it works to reprogram yourself.
Working through my childhood traumas for several years has brought me to a much calmer and more effective state of being. There are still some things left to relive and resolve, and the process is ongoing.
If the direction of our lives is set based on mistaken beliefs, we may misuse the only chance we've been given.
The most important thing we can do is stop and analyze where we are headed, who we are, why we live the way we do, and look deep within for the most crucial answer of all: What do we truly want?
Without the experience or understanding of how the world works, without guidance from someone mature who can help us navigate life, and without a clear vision of our future, we encounter difficult and dangerous situations. In response, we draw conclusions about ourselves, our worth, the world, and our place in it. These conclusions form our worldview, which few people question as they grow older.
I had a difficult childhood with no one to look up to. The defensive and misguided conclusions I made during those years led me to a miserable life as an adult. It took many years of struggle, dissatisfaction, fear, defeat, rejection, and then self-exploration to confront these beliefs and begin to change my life.
One by one, as I encountered situations that triggered intense emotions, I would mentally revisit them, replaying and analyzing those experiences to draw new conclusions based on my current understanding. This process is long, uncomfortable, even painful, and intensive — but it works to reprogram yourself.
Working through my childhood traumas for several years has brought me to a much calmer and more effective state of being. There are still some things left to relive and resolve, and the process is ongoing.
If the direction of our lives is set based on mistaken beliefs, we may misuse the only chance we've been given.
The most important thing we can do is stop and analyze where we are headed, who we are, why we live the way we do, and look deep within for the most crucial answer of all: What do we truly want?