Pre on Nostr: The moderation is the reason that people like and use it. Nostr may be about ...
The moderation is the reason that people like and use it. Nostr may be about censorship resistance, but that is not the only possible type of forum, nor even the best kind usually. Censorship resistance leads to spam and bullying and anti social behaviour.
Activitypub is about decentralized moderation: your own community should be running the server and sharing the moderation load.
In Activitypub it's deliberately not the burden of the individuals to perform moderation, it's a responsibility delegated to community managers.
Picking an instance is picking your moderation team.
If you don't like the moderation team, pick a different one. Or run a server yourself. Mastodon probably isn't the best for a single user server. Over-engineered for that. Gotosocial is very easy to install if you want a single user instance.
But most people don't want a single user instance, they want to share the moderation responsibilities with the community.
Activitypub is about decentralized moderation: your own community should be running the server and sharing the moderation load.
In Activitypub it's deliberately not the burden of the individuals to perform moderation, it's a responsibility delegated to community managers.
Picking an instance is picking your moderation team.
If you don't like the moderation team, pick a different one. Or run a server yourself. Mastodon probably isn't the best for a single user server. Over-engineered for that. Gotosocial is very easy to install if you want a single user instance.
But most people don't want a single user instance, they want to share the moderation responsibilities with the community.