Legally Faith :v_tg: :v_lb: on Nostr: I don't know who needs to hear this but there are three things you DON'T need to be ...
I don't know who needs to hear this but there are three things you DON'T need to be trans:
Gender dysphoria
A strong sense of gender identity that is different from your assigned gender
Signs in your past saying that you've always been X
Nope! You don't need any of those!
If you want to be a girl, you can just be a girl. If you want to be a guy, you can just be a guy. If you don't want to be either, you can be neither. Be who you want to be. That's the point. That's the whole point. 💜
And if you think "I wish I was X. But I'm not trans so I can't be." then, congratulations! You're trans and you can be.
Here's the thing... Being trans is scary. I mean, it's not that scary in practice but our brains like to freak out about it. There's also an incredible weight of social pressure pushing us to stay in our assigned gender lane. It's intense. Anyone who thinks trans people are being peer pressured into it clearly don't know how much social pressure there is against gender transition.
In the midst of that freak-out, we often reach for things that tell us definitively which way to go or reassure us that we've made the right choice. We're searching for certainty. Unfortunately, that certainty is a lie. None of those things defines who you are or what you want and none of them can tell the future. It's just your brain trying to square what it wants with what society says it should want. It's trying to find the loophole that lets it get that little slice of happiness.
I ask myself nearly every day, "Why am I doing this?!? Why did I transition? Who am I kidding? This is crazy, isn't it?" Then I look down at myself, I see my breasts protruding from my chest, the purple glitter paint on my fingernails, the very feminine coded V-neck T-shirt. I play with my hair. I think about myself and how much being called a woman means to me, how much I like my female friends. I smile. I LOVE being a girl! 💜
And that, my friends, is why I transitioned. If that sounds nice to you, then you can, too.
Gender dysphoria
A strong sense of gender identity that is different from your assigned gender
Signs in your past saying that you've always been X
Nope! You don't need any of those!
If you want to be a girl, you can just be a girl. If you want to be a guy, you can just be a guy. If you don't want to be either, you can be neither. Be who you want to be. That's the point. That's the whole point. 💜
And if you think "I wish I was X. But I'm not trans so I can't be." then, congratulations! You're trans and you can be.
Here's the thing... Being trans is scary. I mean, it's not that scary in practice but our brains like to freak out about it. There's also an incredible weight of social pressure pushing us to stay in our assigned gender lane. It's intense. Anyone who thinks trans people are being peer pressured into it clearly don't know how much social pressure there is against gender transition.
In the midst of that freak-out, we often reach for things that tell us definitively which way to go or reassure us that we've made the right choice. We're searching for certainty. Unfortunately, that certainty is a lie. None of those things defines who you are or what you want and none of them can tell the future. It's just your brain trying to square what it wants with what society says it should want. It's trying to find the loophole that lets it get that little slice of happiness.
I ask myself nearly every day, "Why am I doing this?!? Why did I transition? Who am I kidding? This is crazy, isn't it?" Then I look down at myself, I see my breasts protruding from my chest, the purple glitter paint on my fingernails, the very feminine coded V-neck T-shirt. I play with my hair. I think about myself and how much being called a woman means to me, how much I like my female friends. I smile. I LOVE being a girl! 💜
And that, my friends, is why I transitioned. If that sounds nice to you, then you can, too.