rgarrett on Nostr: I struggle with the same thing. I was raised in a different country with different ...
I struggle with the same thing. I was raised in a different country with different culture values, and it was just a given that folks gave you a nod or thank you when you were nice or paid them a good turn.
I now subscribe to Dawn's approach - I'm nice because it makes me feel like a nice person. It's great if my kindness is infectous to another, but if not, oh well, their mood isn't mine to control. Before, I found myself annoyed far too much and I'd gripe to my spouse about other's lack of kindness acknowledgement, which didn't make me feel like a good person. So, I stopped.
I now subscribe to Dawn's approach - I'm nice because it makes me feel like a nice person. It's great if my kindness is infectous to another, but if not, oh well, their mood isn't mine to control. Before, I found myself annoyed far too much and I'd gripe to my spouse about other's lack of kindness acknowledgement, which didn't make me feel like a good person. So, I stopped.
quoting nevent1q…2ejzI can relate to that. Perhaps it's just my nature or how I was raised. Maybe it's the content I consume and the thoughts I entertain, or maybe it's because I'm an artist and need to keep an open mind to absorb all forms of inspiration