purrs_for_Her on Nostr: yes~! it's the worst way to diminish or invalidate the feelings someone has. abusive ...

yes~!
it's the worst way to diminish or invalidate the feelings someone has.

abusive or neglect people will often cite this as a way to cope with the harm they've done.

"at least i didn't do 'x' to you!"
"at least you had 'y,' some people don't even have that!"

basically:
"be grateful i didn't abuse you more"