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𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗶𝘀𝗺
Let's say you want to put your heartistry where others can share in it. Yay!
And then you read a harsh, demeaning, and cruel comment directed at someone else's work — work you really like!
Days later, when you're about to post your work, you can't! You feel this panic. You're frozen and do NOT want to do this anymore!!!
Now, with real skill, you start to inquire. Using the questions, you might discover that you imagine that, after posting your work and wanting to celebrate, some jerk-face is the first to comment, and they ridicule it!
Tap tap tap.
The truth is that when we offer anything of ourselves visibly, judgment and criticism are parts of the landscape. Just as mosquitos are heavy in certain places, less in others, and none in a few special places, we can both pick and choose the spaces and access we want to offer — especially as we're building our calm confidence — and we can also explore our boundaries around criticism.
In response to such criticism, an influential thought leader, Seth Godin, says: "That's okay. I didn't make it for you." That re-frame can help A LOT!
Also, do we need to accept or even consider feedback that is NOT kind and helpful? Perhaps rotten tomatoes are best for the compost pile, not our salad.
Do you get the idea? By looking at what we're not "ready" for, we can build resilience where needed, have more confidence-inspiring frames of reference, and yeah, also heal past traumas directly related to this fresh fear.
𝙔𝙚𝙨, 𝙬𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙤 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙮!
https://www.thrivingnow.com/concept/fresh-fears
Let's say you want to put your heartistry where others can share in it. Yay!
And then you read a harsh, demeaning, and cruel comment directed at someone else's work — work you really like!
Days later, when you're about to post your work, you can't! You feel this panic. You're frozen and do NOT want to do this anymore!!!
Now, with real skill, you start to inquire. Using the questions, you might discover that you imagine that, after posting your work and wanting to celebrate, some jerk-face is the first to comment, and they ridicule it!
Tap tap tap.
The truth is that when we offer anything of ourselves visibly, judgment and criticism are parts of the landscape. Just as mosquitos are heavy in certain places, less in others, and none in a few special places, we can both pick and choose the spaces and access we want to offer — especially as we're building our calm confidence — and we can also explore our boundaries around criticism.
In response to such criticism, an influential thought leader, Seth Godin, says: "That's okay. I didn't make it for you." That re-frame can help A LOT!
Also, do we need to accept or even consider feedback that is NOT kind and helpful? Perhaps rotten tomatoes are best for the compost pile, not our salad.
Do you get the idea? By looking at what we're not "ready" for, we can build resilience where needed, have more confidence-inspiring frames of reference, and yeah, also heal past traumas directly related to this fresh fear.
𝙔𝙚𝙨, 𝙬𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙤 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙚𝙭𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙃𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙩𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙮!
https://www.thrivingnow.com/concept/fresh-fears