lcamtuf :verified: :verified: :verified: on Nostr: The most profound misunderstanding about workplace and online arguments is this: if ...

The most profound misunderstanding about workplace and online arguments is this: if you have a problem that can be settled with dispassionate logic, *you don't end up in an argument in the first place*. You end up in a brainstorming meeting.

Conflict is inherently social. It's a spectator sport. Peacocks showing off their plumage, if you will.

You don't win with facts and logic. You prevail by picking battles wisely, making concessions where possible, and helping both sides save face. If you can't do that, better carry a big stick.