Ellie🏳️⚧️ on Nostr: One way i describe Neurotypical Small Talk™ to #actuallyneurodivergent people is ...
One way i describe Neurotypical Small Talk™ to #actuallyneurodivergent people is that its the verbal version of apes grooming each other. Yes the sentences
How are you?
Im fine how are you?
have ZERO meaning but its just their ape brain checking that your ape brain is still a member of their tribe.
Like a way more simple 'shaking hands ro make sure theres no dagger up ur sleeve' we exchange these little rituals to make sure were still on the same team.
It also leaves room for signalling negative emotional states without direct offense.
How are you?
Not great.
Shows you are not in a good place and should be treated with care without you needing to incite a confrontation or specify your problem. But the other person will make the soothing sounds and reafirm that they are on your side, in your tribe (generally) and care that u dont feel good.
Generalities, of course. But metaphors tend to be.
How are you?
Im fine how are you?
have ZERO meaning but its just their ape brain checking that your ape brain is still a member of their tribe.
Like a way more simple 'shaking hands ro make sure theres no dagger up ur sleeve' we exchange these little rituals to make sure were still on the same team.
It also leaves room for signalling negative emotional states without direct offense.
How are you?
Not great.
Shows you are not in a good place and should be treated with care without you needing to incite a confrontation or specify your problem. But the other person will make the soothing sounds and reafirm that they are on your side, in your tribe (generally) and care that u dont feel good.
Generalities, of course. But metaphors tend to be.