Seraphim on Nostr: Normal people love their children and grandchildren unconditionally. They will ...
Normal people love their children and grandchildren unconditionally. They will literally suffer and die for them. They respect them and care about their feelings.
Unfortunately, most boomers utilize a “transactional“ sort of “love” (it’s not even love. The only person they truly love is themselves.) They will SORT of care about you…ONLY as long as you live up to the standard of success that they demand and OBEY their pettiest whims unconditionally. If you find yourself down in life…even if it’s a situation that you have zero control over…two things are going to happen.
(1) The boomer is going to shriek about how it’s YOUR fault and you’re in this position because you didn’t bow down and worship them or obey their demands correctly. Caring about your well-being would essentially be equivalent to “enabling your disobedience.“ So they’re no gonna care about you BECAUSE they “care,” you see. Caring about you “would be the worst thing they could ever do to you!” Because every poisonous action and backstabbing act is for YOUR benefit…and don’t you forget it.
(2) While you’re down, they’re gonna repeatedly kick you as hard as they can, as brutally as they can, and they’re gonna do it “out of love” without a second thought or a moment of guilt. They are going to seize this vulnerable state to try and brainwash you about how they are right and you are wrong and it’s all so very tragic that you weren’t more like them because they’re the best. Then they are actually going to go shopping and forget all about you until it comes time to bitch about your laziness to some rando stranger that they have psychologically latched on to, maybe a Haitian cashier that they have always tried to make small talk with.
(3) They are gonna feel hate and angst every time they see you. Literally just the sight of you is going to trigger them. It doesn’t matter if you’re dying of cancer or you got stabbed by a nigger and are laying in a hospital bed. The perceived “weakness“ is like blood in the water to a shark, or a dying deer to a vulture…and by God, they’re gonna find a way to either finish you off or psychologically break you. If they are your in-laws, this feeling is going to move them to try and turn your wife or kids against you (“divide and conquer.”) They would rather their grandkids be raised by a “better” man, or even see their daughter become a “strong single mother“ to teach you a lesson about questioning their divinity and universal authority as god almighty.
I once knew a girl who experienced something very traumatic (through no fault of her own.) I genuinely felt empathy for her, and so did everyone else who knew. Over the ensuing months, her depression got worse and worse…until she became genuinely suicidal. She approached her boomer parents for help, reassurance, etc. Instead of concern, their response was actually anger. “No daughter of MINE is suicidally depressed! You just aren’t working hard enough! You need to rub some dirt on it and GET OVER IT! You’re depressed because you haven’t ACCOMPLISHED anything!” Each subsequent attempt to “cry out for help” was pretty much ignored and her parents pretended the issue didn’t even exist.
If it wasn’t for other people helping her work through those issues, I’m convinced that she would have offed herself.
Unfortunately, most boomers utilize a “transactional“ sort of “love” (it’s not even love. The only person they truly love is themselves.) They will SORT of care about you…ONLY as long as you live up to the standard of success that they demand and OBEY their pettiest whims unconditionally. If you find yourself down in life…even if it’s a situation that you have zero control over…two things are going to happen.
(1) The boomer is going to shriek about how it’s YOUR fault and you’re in this position because you didn’t bow down and worship them or obey their demands correctly. Caring about your well-being would essentially be equivalent to “enabling your disobedience.“ So they’re no gonna care about you BECAUSE they “care,” you see. Caring about you “would be the worst thing they could ever do to you!” Because every poisonous action and backstabbing act is for YOUR benefit…and don’t you forget it.
(2) While you’re down, they’re gonna repeatedly kick you as hard as they can, as brutally as they can, and they’re gonna do it “out of love” without a second thought or a moment of guilt. They are going to seize this vulnerable state to try and brainwash you about how they are right and you are wrong and it’s all so very tragic that you weren’t more like them because they’re the best. Then they are actually going to go shopping and forget all about you until it comes time to bitch about your laziness to some rando stranger that they have psychologically latched on to, maybe a Haitian cashier that they have always tried to make small talk with.
(3) They are gonna feel hate and angst every time they see you. Literally just the sight of you is going to trigger them. It doesn’t matter if you’re dying of cancer or you got stabbed by a nigger and are laying in a hospital bed. The perceived “weakness“ is like blood in the water to a shark, or a dying deer to a vulture…and by God, they’re gonna find a way to either finish you off or psychologically break you. If they are your in-laws, this feeling is going to move them to try and turn your wife or kids against you (“divide and conquer.”) They would rather their grandkids be raised by a “better” man, or even see their daughter become a “strong single mother“ to teach you a lesson about questioning their divinity and universal authority as god almighty.
I once knew a girl who experienced something very traumatic (through no fault of her own.) I genuinely felt empathy for her, and so did everyone else who knew. Over the ensuing months, her depression got worse and worse…until she became genuinely suicidal. She approached her boomer parents for help, reassurance, etc. Instead of concern, their response was actually anger. “No daughter of MINE is suicidally depressed! You just aren’t working hard enough! You need to rub some dirt on it and GET OVER IT! You’re depressed because you haven’t ACCOMPLISHED anything!” Each subsequent attempt to “cry out for help” was pretty much ignored and her parents pretended the issue didn’t even exist.
If it wasn’t for other people helping her work through those issues, I’m convinced that she would have offed herself.