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Of all the people (friends, acquaintances, colleagues) there were only one couple who were weird and with whom I haven't talked since then.
It was already some time ago, I think around June/July 2023. I was visiting my SIL in Hamburg, my daughter and her fiancée came to visit me there as well. Then, towards the afternoon we decided to visit that couple, old friends of us.
So, #MyAdoredDaughter, her lovely fiancée and me, we went to that couple. They are an older than me, around 70ish. They are all liberal, highly educated, and well-read.
Anyway, we were sitting in their kitchen at a large table, chatting, when I finally (officially) came out to them and explained about being non-binary.
The setting was: me, my daughter and her fiancée on this side, the couple on the other side (they always sit on the other side of that table).
First, their reaction was ok. Then they started asking questions, and when it came to hormones and I confirmed that I started HRT, they both looked at me, shocked: "But those hormones have massive side-effects! They are dangerous! How can you ..."
I tried to explain to them that yes, I know the side-effects of HRT, and yes, I am being regularly checked. But then they kept going, at which point my daughter got really mad (and no, you don't want to see her mad) and her fiancée and she started telling them what it means for trans people to NOT have access to HRT and how horrible it can be and how much they suffer, that it is not their fault their body is producing the wrong hormones, and that ... OMFG, my daughter was on an argument-spree, strongly supported by her fiancée.
You see, my daughter in that moment saw me being attacked and felt someone had to defend me, someone had to put those two people in their places, because she saw I was feeling more and more defensive.
Anyhow, the couple apologized and agreed that (a) HRT is right for those trans people who feel they need it, and (b) that trans people on HRT know probably more about hormones than any cis person bar those who study it.
But still, even to this day they don't get non-binary, they still think in binaries. I'll see if they've change when we visit them again in December.
Edit: typo
It was already some time ago, I think around June/July 2023. I was visiting my SIL in Hamburg, my daughter and her fiancée came to visit me there as well. Then, towards the afternoon we decided to visit that couple, old friends of us.
So, #MyAdoredDaughter, her lovely fiancée and me, we went to that couple. They are an older than me, around 70ish. They are all liberal, highly educated, and well-read.
Anyway, we were sitting in their kitchen at a large table, chatting, when I finally (officially) came out to them and explained about being non-binary.
The setting was: me, my daughter and her fiancée on this side, the couple on the other side (they always sit on the other side of that table).
First, their reaction was ok. Then they started asking questions, and when it came to hormones and I confirmed that I started HRT, they both looked at me, shocked: "But those hormones have massive side-effects! They are dangerous! How can you ..."
I tried to explain to them that yes, I know the side-effects of HRT, and yes, I am being regularly checked. But then they kept going, at which point my daughter got really mad (and no, you don't want to see her mad) and her fiancée and she started telling them what it means for trans people to NOT have access to HRT and how horrible it can be and how much they suffer, that it is not their fault their body is producing the wrong hormones, and that ... OMFG, my daughter was on an argument-spree, strongly supported by her fiancée.
You see, my daughter in that moment saw me being attacked and felt someone had to defend me, someone had to put those two people in their places, because she saw I was feeling more and more defensive.
Anyhow, the couple apologized and agreed that (a) HRT is right for those trans people who feel they need it, and (b) that trans people on HRT know probably more about hormones than any cis person bar those who study it.
But still, even to this day they don't get non-binary, they still think in binaries. I'll see if they've change when we visit them again in December.
Edit: typo