Bill Cypher on Nostr: Try reading the subtle art of not giving a fuck. Personally I tend to overdo ...
Try reading the subtle art of not giving a fuck. Personally I tend to overdo boundaries and be overly hostile. The true path is to know there is a time and a place and to have the skills to be mean or to be nice as needed as well as the skill to know which is which.
I can tell you that a simple boundary firmly set with 0 wiggle room is usually more effective than "assholeness." Assholeness gives them your behavior as an excuse to think less of you. Try "We agreed to this and you have not done your part, I will not leave or concede at all until you make it right." It puts all failing on them. It is really hard on people because they need the narrative that they are good and you give them no route back to that narrative other than to fix your problem. If you fall into rudeness that is an alternative path to moral superiority for them.
Good luck.
I can tell you that a simple boundary firmly set with 0 wiggle room is usually more effective than "assholeness." Assholeness gives them your behavior as an excuse to think less of you. Try "We agreed to this and you have not done your part, I will not leave or concede at all until you make it right." It puts all failing on them. It is really hard on people because they need the narrative that they are good and you give them no route back to that narrative other than to fix your problem. If you fall into rudeness that is an alternative path to moral superiority for them.
Good luck.