TheGuySwann on Nostr: Being “good” or “kind” to someone is not attained by just going along with ...
Being “good” or “kind” to someone is not attained by just going along with whatever weird or crazy thing they say even if I know it’s wrong, or when I think that they are making a mistake, in some misguided attempt to protect their feelings.
To the contrary, that is being selfish because it suggests I would rather play along with something that I know is false, and may cost them at some point, just so *I* can avoid the stress of having to tell them the truth.
Doing the right, or “good” thing, would be in finding a way to communicate that truth, even at the cost of our comfort.
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Shorter version: If you care about someone, you tell them the truth. If you don’t care about them, or if you want something from them, you tell them what they want to hear.
To the contrary, that is being selfish because it suggests I would rather play along with something that I know is false, and may cost them at some point, just so *I* can avoid the stress of having to tell them the truth.
Doing the right, or “good” thing, would be in finding a way to communicate that truth, even at the cost of our comfort.
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Shorter version: If you care about someone, you tell them the truth. If you don’t care about them, or if you want something from them, you tell them what they want to hear.