JNL on Nostr: I have worked with many families with kids in acute mental health crisis, and with a ...
I have worked with many families with kids in acute mental health crisis, and with a couple of families who lost teens to suicide related to bullying.
A really magical thing that you can tell your kid at the beginning of the year, AND MEAN IT:
If, beloved child, this for some reason is not working for you, we will fix it. If it's intolerable, if you're miserable, if you hate getting up in the morning, this is not simply your lot in life. We will figure it out. Your happiness matters.
Yes, we literally say this to our sons. Both of them. And the nightmare that I have seen teens and families go through when school is a constant trauma is why. The US system is REALLY BAD at communicating to the rank and file that we could simply step off some of the conveyor belts and try something else.
But ... you can. A change might be just the ticket.
And if it TERRIFIES YOU to think of indulging your beloved kid by communicating that their life can and should feel good ... consider therapy.
A really magical thing that you can tell your kid at the beginning of the year, AND MEAN IT:
If, beloved child, this for some reason is not working for you, we will fix it. If it's intolerable, if you're miserable, if you hate getting up in the morning, this is not simply your lot in life. We will figure it out. Your happiness matters.
Yes, we literally say this to our sons. Both of them. And the nightmare that I have seen teens and families go through when school is a constant trauma is why. The US system is REALLY BAD at communicating to the rank and file that we could simply step off some of the conveyor belts and try something else.
But ... you can. A change might be just the ticket.
And if it TERRIFIES YOU to think of indulging your beloved kid by communicating that their life can and should feel good ... consider therapy.