spltngheadache on Nostr: I really don’t get the purpose of nostr relays not federating. I thought this was ...

I really don’t get the purpose of nostr relays not federating. I thought this was more like a Bitcoin node then I setup my own and read a lot more. If I want to engage with someone I now have to out of band make sure we’re using the same relay? I’m less excited about this because of this.