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Boundaries ARE a co-creation that is sourced from our clarity, strengthened through confidence that what matters to us MATTERS and is not "subservient" to others.
Cathy and I so appreciate those who brought their clarity, questions, and wisdom to the workshop. We touched on potent areas that support building a thriving life for ourselves and WITH those who are compatible with an attitude of, "Absolutely, I want to survive, AND there is so much more to life!"
https://youtu.be/pL08FhmYvMQ
๐๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป - ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ณ๐๐น ๐๐ ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐บ๐๐ป๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป
Before reviewing this session:
1. What does "graceful exit" mean to me in the context of relationships or commitments?
2. Can I recall a time when I successfully adjusted a boundary or exited a situation or commitment? How did it feel?
3. What fears come up when I think about exiting a situation or relationship?
๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ช๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฑ:
Boundaries arenโt just about protection; theyโre fluid and honor both your guidance and othersโ. Imagine them as a dance that allows you to thrive and be in your heartistry.
Graceful exits arenโt about rejection. Theyโre about aligning with your current energy and needs. Next time you need to bow out, try saying, โCan we take a rain check? Iโm feeling like I need some quiet time right now.โ
Start small! Practice setting boundaries with safe people first. You donโt have to confront your scariest relationships right away. Build that muscle gradually.
Tune your sensors inward. Before you can communicate your needs, you need to know what they are. Take time to check in with yourself regularly.
Hinting and hoping isnโt savvy communication. Instead, try stating your request directly but kindly. For example: โIโm noticing Iโm feeling chaotic with this conversation. Could we be quiet for a few minutes so I can regulate myself?โ
Obligation often comes with rigid expectations. Try reframing it as devotion, which allows for more flexibility and love. Itโs not โIโm obligated to change this diaper,โ but โIโm devoted to my childโs well-being.โ
When setting new boundaries, give people a heads-up. Try saying, โI want to deepen our relationship, so Iโll be speaking up about my needs more. Iโd love your support in this.โ
Remember: Youโre not responsible for managing othersโ emotions about your boundaries. Itโs okay to comfort them if itโs a yes for you, but their feelings are ultimately their responsibility.
Freeing up energy sometimes means gracefully exiting situations or relationships that no longer serve you. Itโs okay to recalibrate and put your energy where it matters most to you.
Boundaries for thriving are in motion โ they can shift over time as you grow and change. Allow yourself the freedom to adjust your dance as needed.
If you canโt say no in the moment, itโs okay to make an excuse and address it later. The most important thing is tuning into yourself and practicing in ways that feel safe.
Cathy and I so appreciate those who brought their clarity, questions, and wisdom to the workshop. We touched on potent areas that support building a thriving life for ourselves and WITH those who are compatible with an attitude of, "Absolutely, I want to survive, AND there is so much more to life!"
https://youtu.be/pL08FhmYvMQ
๐๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป - ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ณ๐๐น ๐๐ ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐๐ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐บ๐๐ป๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป
Before reviewing this session:
1. What does "graceful exit" mean to me in the context of relationships or commitments?
2. Can I recall a time when I successfully adjusted a boundary or exited a situation or commitment? How did it feel?
3. What fears come up when I think about exiting a situation or relationship?
๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ช๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฑ:
Boundaries arenโt just about protection; theyโre fluid and honor both your guidance and othersโ. Imagine them as a dance that allows you to thrive and be in your heartistry.
Graceful exits arenโt about rejection. Theyโre about aligning with your current energy and needs. Next time you need to bow out, try saying, โCan we take a rain check? Iโm feeling like I need some quiet time right now.โ
Start small! Practice setting boundaries with safe people first. You donโt have to confront your scariest relationships right away. Build that muscle gradually.
Tune your sensors inward. Before you can communicate your needs, you need to know what they are. Take time to check in with yourself regularly.
Hinting and hoping isnโt savvy communication. Instead, try stating your request directly but kindly. For example: โIโm noticing Iโm feeling chaotic with this conversation. Could we be quiet for a few minutes so I can regulate myself?โ
Obligation often comes with rigid expectations. Try reframing it as devotion, which allows for more flexibility and love. Itโs not โIโm obligated to change this diaper,โ but โIโm devoted to my childโs well-being.โ
When setting new boundaries, give people a heads-up. Try saying, โI want to deepen our relationship, so Iโll be speaking up about my needs more. Iโd love your support in this.โ
Remember: Youโre not responsible for managing othersโ emotions about your boundaries. Itโs okay to comfort them if itโs a yes for you, but their feelings are ultimately their responsibility.
Freeing up energy sometimes means gracefully exiting situations or relationships that no longer serve you. Itโs okay to recalibrate and put your energy where it matters most to you.
Boundaries for thriving are in motion โ they can shift over time as you grow and change. Allow yourself the freedom to adjust your dance as needed.
If you canโt say no in the moment, itโs okay to make an excuse and address it later. The most important thing is tuning into yourself and practicing in ways that feel safe.