nout on Nostr: Collaboration and cooperation is beautiful and I think I'm the least competitive ...
Collaboration and cooperation is beautiful and I think I'm the least competitive person I know, I'm not at all good and competitive sports, because I'm happy for the other team to win. I always try helping others, often work with companies in the bitcoin space, etc. I think we should push towards collaboration as much as possible, create communities with shared interests and help each other.
What I tried to say in my reply is that I believe it's useful, especially for young males, to have a place to compete, to compare themselves in a hierarchy - for example being the best in sports. Or trying to be the best in building the best product. Or becoming the expert on some topic. Or helping the most people. Or speaking the fastest (😉)…
As part trying to be the best they learn to overcome hardships and they get better at that skill. They get a goal to aim at. Also if you know you are good at something, it gives you confidence and peace (at least for me).
In all of this women and men are really similar with only small differences in the average women vs average men. Based on the quick "research" I did today there is some evidence that on average the competition may be more useful for men than women, but that's of course only talking averages. Different people are different. Some men will hate social comparison, it will make them depressed, miserable, etc and some women will love it and grow thanks to it. I do not see competition as a zerosum game. There is a huge value gain on the way.
In other replies you also brought up the global situation, presumably around wars, competition of countries, dictators, etc. All those are horrible things, but that's imo a separate topic, not caused by hierarchy/social comparison. I don't think if we would completely eliminate hierarchy and social comparison it would eliminate wars, dictators, etc.
What I tried to say in my reply is that I believe it's useful, especially for young males, to have a place to compete, to compare themselves in a hierarchy - for example being the best in sports. Or trying to be the best in building the best product. Or becoming the expert on some topic. Or helping the most people. Or speaking the fastest (😉)…
As part trying to be the best they learn to overcome hardships and they get better at that skill. They get a goal to aim at. Also if you know you are good at something, it gives you confidence and peace (at least for me).
In all of this women and men are really similar with only small differences in the average women vs average men. Based on the quick "research" I did today there is some evidence that on average the competition may be more useful for men than women, but that's of course only talking averages. Different people are different. Some men will hate social comparison, it will make them depressed, miserable, etc and some women will love it and grow thanks to it. I do not see competition as a zerosum game. There is a huge value gain on the way.
In other replies you also brought up the global situation, presumably around wars, competition of countries, dictators, etc. All those are horrible things, but that's imo a separate topic, not caused by hierarchy/social comparison. I don't think if we would completely eliminate hierarchy and social comparison it would eliminate wars, dictators, etc.