:spinnenrad: Springoat :spinnenrad: on Nostr: Talk to him about boundaries, make it clear you don't want to be involved in that ...

Talk to him about boundaries, make it clear you don't want to be involved in that side of his life.

Also, if you care about him, try to help him understand that those urges are fuelled by anxiety driven by a sense of low self esteem and if he wants to be truly happy (not just to distract from it by being horny) he'll have to deal with it sooner or later.

Being with a lady on a similar wavelength isn't necessarily an obstacle to this if she's also interested in solving her problems. On the other hand, if she isn't, it could drag him down into worse and worse behaviour.