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"Life has been so much better since I distanced myself from everyone who made me doubt them. There was never any loss on my part. Peace is all that remains here."
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I live by this saying: “It is not enough for Caesar’s wife to be honest; she must be above suspicion.”
Julius Caesar was referring to his wife, but I do not limit this principle to romantic relationships alone.
How many times have you doubted the character of a friend, and after the friendship ended—despite your efforts to preserve it—your suspicions were confirmed?
The girlfriend who starts disappearing at suspicious times, the employee who suddenly begins acting strangely—no doubt arises without reason.
We struggle to believe they are acting behind our backs because we don’t want the expectations we built to be shattered. We resist accepting that, after so much effort, this is the repayment we receive. But this mystery would be easy to solve if you were merely a spectator watching your own life from the outside. Affection clouds our judgment. Learn, then, to perceive things with a cold and objective mind.
Because if the person beside you is not only disloyal but also manipulative, they will trap you in a cycle of torment that steals years from your life. Twisting the truth and reversing the consequences, they will accuse you of insecurities caused by their own actions—actions that provide no reassurance for the future of your relationship. And the outcome is predictable: *you* will be blamed for their wrongdoing.
The truth? A person who respects you would never put themselves in situations that could cause you distress. Just as you would do for them, they would reciprocate—because peace in loyalty is shared, and what harms the other is not in harmony with you. “They must not even be suspected.”
So, value those in your life who leave no room for doubt—those who avoid places and people that could taint the reputation of both, simply to prevent others from *"imagining things."* To sleep and wake up without the constant suspicion of being deceived is a peace beyond price. If you cannot find that peace with someone, embrace solitude—where peace is always certain.
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🥃
I live by this saying: “It is not enough for Caesar’s wife to be honest; she must be above suspicion.”
Julius Caesar was referring to his wife, but I do not limit this principle to romantic relationships alone.
How many times have you doubted the character of a friend, and after the friendship ended—despite your efforts to preserve it—your suspicions were confirmed?
The girlfriend who starts disappearing at suspicious times, the employee who suddenly begins acting strangely—no doubt arises without reason.
We struggle to believe they are acting behind our backs because we don’t want the expectations we built to be shattered. We resist accepting that, after so much effort, this is the repayment we receive. But this mystery would be easy to solve if you were merely a spectator watching your own life from the outside. Affection clouds our judgment. Learn, then, to perceive things with a cold and objective mind.
Because if the person beside you is not only disloyal but also manipulative, they will trap you in a cycle of torment that steals years from your life. Twisting the truth and reversing the consequences, they will accuse you of insecurities caused by their own actions—actions that provide no reassurance for the future of your relationship. And the outcome is predictable: *you* will be blamed for their wrongdoing.
The truth? A person who respects you would never put themselves in situations that could cause you distress. Just as you would do for them, they would reciprocate—because peace in loyalty is shared, and what harms the other is not in harmony with you. “They must not even be suspected.”
So, value those in your life who leave no room for doubt—those who avoid places and people that could taint the reputation of both, simply to prevent others from *"imagining things."* To sleep and wake up without the constant suspicion of being deceived is a peace beyond price. If you cannot find that peace with someone, embrace solitude—where peace is always certain.
Thank you for reading this far, my dear friend!
If this message has helped you in any way, consider leaving your "🥃" as a token of appreciation.
A toast to our family!