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Some thoughts on pain
When pain grips us, everything which we do to avoid confrontations with our inner-self suddenly loses its value, appears futile and becomes clear as to what it all really amounted to ——— nothing.
When you are happy your pain doesn't go but when you are in pain everything goes away, happiness being the first. When engulfed by pure pain, all illusions are shattered, everything is raw, and the true importance of "things" to which we devote ourselves to everyday reveal their true meaning to us — most mean nothing, very few truly deserve us. It's a great litmus test, observe closely.
When in pain:
— express gratitude for all that you have, at its core, for being alive to experience.
— find the source of your suffering: is it unattained desire? or an expectation rooted in a deluded-fantasy?
— embrace truth and be more authentic.
— be intellectually humble.
— realise that everyone suffers from existential thoughts, internal doubt, guilt and meaning-crisis —— see your pain in others, and be more kind and understanding.
If there is something we need to do more often in our lives — it's precisely to share our pain and sorrow more honestly with those who show a modicum of care. This should be normalised. After all, one of the most real things we have, is our pain. As Mark Twain puts it: "What is joy without pain".
True joy is not sharing joy but to share sorrow authentically & truthfully without an active censor filtering emotions & words coming out of your consciousness; with no expectation but with the intent of surrendering your inner-self with whom you see eternity and divinity within.
Abandon societal filters, embrace authenticity and choose your words carefully, and see unknown friends come to you:
“No matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown friends will come and seek you.” –– Jung
It is also worth meditating on the fact that mistakes resulting in suffering causing "guilt" constitutes pain — which is how we "learn" and is how our human consciousness has evolved through the eons. Pain is the fundamental reality, familiar to all, but mistakes are the precursor to evolution, and to a better life.
Equally important is not give into the mindset of excess suffering:
"Man is sometimes extraordinarily, passionately, in love with suffering" — Foydor Dostoevsky
If one finds joy in sorrow — precisely when does it become masochistic? Søren Kierkegaard suggested that by courageously confronting suffering, a person can find great joy in life. He did not considered joy to be the opposite of sorrow, but cowardice and evasiveness.
Lastly, as Jordan Peterson notes that the thing which dispels pain in more real than main, and this thing is the purpose or the meaning that needs to be found:
“The purpose of life, as far as I can tell… is to find a mode of being that’s so meaningful that the fact that life is suffering is no longer relevant.” — Jordan B Peterson
When pain grips us, everything which we do to avoid confrontations with our inner-self suddenly loses its value, appears futile and becomes clear as to what it all really amounted to ——— nothing.
When you are happy your pain doesn't go but when you are in pain everything goes away, happiness being the first. When engulfed by pure pain, all illusions are shattered, everything is raw, and the true importance of "things" to which we devote ourselves to everyday reveal their true meaning to us — most mean nothing, very few truly deserve us. It's a great litmus test, observe closely.
When in pain:
— express gratitude for all that you have, at its core, for being alive to experience.
— find the source of your suffering: is it unattained desire? or an expectation rooted in a deluded-fantasy?
— embrace truth and be more authentic.
— be intellectually humble.
— realise that everyone suffers from existential thoughts, internal doubt, guilt and meaning-crisis —— see your pain in others, and be more kind and understanding.
If there is something we need to do more often in our lives — it's precisely to share our pain and sorrow more honestly with those who show a modicum of care. This should be normalised. After all, one of the most real things we have, is our pain. As Mark Twain puts it: "What is joy without pain".
True joy is not sharing joy but to share sorrow authentically & truthfully without an active censor filtering emotions & words coming out of your consciousness; with no expectation but with the intent of surrendering your inner-self with whom you see eternity and divinity within.
Abandon societal filters, embrace authenticity and choose your words carefully, and see unknown friends come to you:
“No matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and conscientiously, unknown friends will come and seek you.” –– Jung
It is also worth meditating on the fact that mistakes resulting in suffering causing "guilt" constitutes pain — which is how we "learn" and is how our human consciousness has evolved through the eons. Pain is the fundamental reality, familiar to all, but mistakes are the precursor to evolution, and to a better life.
Equally important is not give into the mindset of excess suffering:
"Man is sometimes extraordinarily, passionately, in love with suffering" — Foydor Dostoevsky
If one finds joy in sorrow — precisely when does it become masochistic? Søren Kierkegaard suggested that by courageously confronting suffering, a person can find great joy in life. He did not considered joy to be the opposite of sorrow, but cowardice and evasiveness.
Lastly, as Jordan Peterson notes that the thing which dispels pain in more real than main, and this thing is the purpose or the meaning that needs to be found:
“The purpose of life, as far as I can tell… is to find a mode of being that’s so meaningful that the fact that life is suffering is no longer relevant.” — Jordan B Peterson