suboss on Nostr: I've noticed some people have alot of problems on nostr. I've been ok so far, ...

I've noticed some people have alot of problems on nostr. I've been ok so far, sometimes takes time to update refresh. I've only been here 4 or 5 months. Possibly because I don't actively create my own notes, just reply to other peoples notes maybe that's why my experience is different. Plus I don't have lots of followers / follows, so maybe I'm passing under the radar because of this and not targeted.
Tbh I don't completely understand how the whole relay system works/ decentralised etc.
I discovered DM aren't always private either.
I'm just relieved I can express my views without being censored. Generally when people don't like my opinion I notice they just don't respond or engage as much, rather than getting into a full blown argument like fb / x. Ironic, but more freedom feels like result is more respectful. When you'd think it be the opposite.