undomesticatedtash on Nostr: when you try to fix a problem by focusing on the problem, you are using a safety ...

when you try to fix a problem by focusing on the problem,

you are using a safety strategy that makes you feel more in control

it only gives short term relief because it feels like you’re doing something about it

but perpetuates the anxiety long term & rarely solves it

Here’s what you can do instead 👇🏼

1. Acknowledge there’s something you’re unhappy with and you want a different experience
2. Decide it’s changing as you speak & think about it (no doubt in mind)
3. Instead of focusing on “how do I fix this” - “I need to fix this now” which ends up driving you into actions where you’ll try to get rid of the anxiety of the thing potentially not changing or remaining the same …. focus on “what do I want to create instead?” 🧐

What do you WANT?
Can you be CURIOUS about a different reality instead of trying to CONTROL it to become something different?
Who would you have to be and what would you have to change in order to have what you want and CREATE this new experience ?

#growthmindset #anxiety #anxietyrelief #anxietysupport #releasecontrol #releaseperfectionism #monkeymind #lettinggo #surrender #perfectionist