PG on Nostr: Having a trans-identified person in your life is meant to bind you to a certain ...
Having a trans-identified person in your life is meant to bind you to a certain perspective on trans issues.
That’s the expectation: if you have a friend or family member who identifies as transgender, then of course you must agree that sterilizing gender-confused kids is great and men competing in women’s sports is great and Dylan Mulvaney has been a woman for 365 days and counting, and anything else—no matter your reasons—is a heinous betrayal.
How could I continue to care about someone and yet refuse to play along? Under this belief system, such a stance makes no sense. Now everything I said and did all these years will be recast in brutal terms. Relationships across difference cannot survive if one person interprets disagreement as hatred or rejection. But it’s human to want to stay close to someone you love, whether you believe what they believe or not.
So many people are bound by a loved one who identifies as trans. They are bound because the pain unbelief causes is real. So they keep their doubts to themselves. They don’t follow certain lines of thought. They can’t afford to. Whatever causes so much pain must be bad. Who wants to inflict pain on someone they love?
But I wasn’t willing to suspend my curiosity. I thought that if I only understood, I could be a better friend. But then I understood too well and drew all the wrong conclusions.
https://elizamondegreen.substack.com/p/boundPublished at
2023-04-19 14:45:11Event JSON
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