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What Does This Remind Me Of?
Trauma triggers are only partially about what is happening NOW. The question, "What does this remind me of?" allows the parts of us that remain unhealed from trauma to speak up.
For example, when someone criticizes you, instead of responding calmly and confidently, do you feel you better not say anythingโฆ or else!?
๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ?
Perhaps it reminds you of a parent who would hit you if you argued with their criticism, no matter how cruel and unjust it was.
The useful question, "What does this remind me of?" allows you to become aware that your reaction now is linked to those past traumas.
Once we know what a feeling or reaction is linked to, we can use EFT Tapping to help re-cast it. We can even acknowledge (to ourselves and any understanding people in our life) that our reaction is magnified by past trauma and ask for their support and understanding.
It's also a question that has dramatically helped those of us who habitually blamed ourselves for not speaking up or being confident when the truth is we still were working on intense traumas where speaking up or being honest was unsafe.
https://www.thrivingnow.com/concept/useful-questions
Trauma triggers are only partially about what is happening NOW. The question, "What does this remind me of?" allows the parts of us that remain unhealed from trauma to speak up.
For example, when someone criticizes you, instead of responding calmly and confidently, do you feel you better not say anythingโฆ or else!?
๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ?
Perhaps it reminds you of a parent who would hit you if you argued with their criticism, no matter how cruel and unjust it was.
The useful question, "What does this remind me of?" allows you to become aware that your reaction now is linked to those past traumas.
Once we know what a feeling or reaction is linked to, we can use EFT Tapping to help re-cast it. We can even acknowledge (to ourselves and any understanding people in our life) that our reaction is magnified by past trauma and ask for their support and understanding.
It's also a question that has dramatically helped those of us who habitually blamed ourselves for not speaking up or being confident when the truth is we still were working on intense traumas where speaking up or being honest was unsafe.
https://www.thrivingnow.com/concept/useful-questions