shahab on Nostr: Dear Family, Today, I find myself compelled to bring to light some deeply rooted ...
Dear Family,
Today, I find myself compelled to bring to light some deeply rooted sentiments and thoughts, sentiments that have subtly shaped our existence, often cloaked in silence but resonating powerfully within us.
These feelings are rooted in shared experiences that have been part of our journey—experiences of lack of emotional support during our formative years, and the combined trauma that has seamlessly intertwined itself into the fabric of our lives. I approach this topic with a degree of hesitation, but I also know that it calls for our collective understanding and compassion.
In observing our family dynamics over the years, I've discerned a recurring pattern, a subconscious propensity to judge ourselves and our family members (especially children) against the yardstick of those relatives who are viewed as "practical" or embodiments of "success." This relentless comparison has fed a persistent feeling of guilt and worthlessness within me, feelings I suspect aren't entirely unfamiliar to most of us.
However, I've begun to understand that there's a vast chasm between accepting the reality of our situations, as challenging as they might be, and feeling worthless because our lives don't mirror those of "practical" and "successful" others. Our value, as human beings, does not hinge on external achievements, outward accomplishments, financial success, or societal approval. Our worth lies within our humanity, our sincerity, our truthfulness, our passions, our experiences, and our unique journeys through life in this world.
It is crucial that we recognize and sit with these feelings—the guilt, the shame, the seeming worthlessness. They might be distressing to confront, but they form part of our collective experience. They are not to be evaded (through a constant pursuit of achievements and success), but approached with tenderness and compassion. By embracing and listening to these emotions, we can begin to break the chain of emotional detachment and start to feel again—to reconnect with our true selves.
Embarking on this voyage of acknowledgment and healing won't be easy, but it's essential. It's also about rethinking our understanding of success in life, reclaiming our inherent self-worth, and recognizing the genuine voices, dreams, visions, virtues, strengths and resilience within us.
Our lives are not defined by how they stack up against others, but by how we chart our own course, how we rise from our experiences, and how we evolve through our unique narratives.
Let us undertake this journey of healing together, offering mutual support as we navigate this demanding landscape.
With Love
Today, I find myself compelled to bring to light some deeply rooted sentiments and thoughts, sentiments that have subtly shaped our existence, often cloaked in silence but resonating powerfully within us.
These feelings are rooted in shared experiences that have been part of our journey—experiences of lack of emotional support during our formative years, and the combined trauma that has seamlessly intertwined itself into the fabric of our lives. I approach this topic with a degree of hesitation, but I also know that it calls for our collective understanding and compassion.
In observing our family dynamics over the years, I've discerned a recurring pattern, a subconscious propensity to judge ourselves and our family members (especially children) against the yardstick of those relatives who are viewed as "practical" or embodiments of "success." This relentless comparison has fed a persistent feeling of guilt and worthlessness within me, feelings I suspect aren't entirely unfamiliar to most of us.
However, I've begun to understand that there's a vast chasm between accepting the reality of our situations, as challenging as they might be, and feeling worthless because our lives don't mirror those of "practical" and "successful" others. Our value, as human beings, does not hinge on external achievements, outward accomplishments, financial success, or societal approval. Our worth lies within our humanity, our sincerity, our truthfulness, our passions, our experiences, and our unique journeys through life in this world.
It is crucial that we recognize and sit with these feelings—the guilt, the shame, the seeming worthlessness. They might be distressing to confront, but they form part of our collective experience. They are not to be evaded (through a constant pursuit of achievements and success), but approached with tenderness and compassion. By embracing and listening to these emotions, we can begin to break the chain of emotional detachment and start to feel again—to reconnect with our true selves.
Embarking on this voyage of acknowledgment and healing won't be easy, but it's essential. It's also about rethinking our understanding of success in life, reclaiming our inherent self-worth, and recognizing the genuine voices, dreams, visions, virtues, strengths and resilience within us.
Our lives are not defined by how they stack up against others, but by how we chart our own course, how we rise from our experiences, and how we evolve through our unique narratives.
Let us undertake this journey of healing together, offering mutual support as we navigate this demanding landscape.
With Love