trosso19 on Nostr: Confession: I don't understand how the outbox model works. If I self host a relay and ...

Confession: I don't understand how the outbox model works.

If I self host a relay and I'm the only user and I set that as my outbox how do other clients know to get my notes from there?

If I set a paid relay as my inbox does it accept replies to my notes from users who don't pay for the relay?