A Place To Be on Nostr: Hey Plebbles, On Saturday, I graduated from a white to a blue belt in BJJ 😎 I must ...
Hey Plebbles,
On Saturday, I graduated from a white to a blue belt in BJJ 😎 I must admit that it feels good but I can also see the relation to a school's grade system as a motivation to do better and keep going. I suppose the difference is that I made the choice to practice BJJ, nobody sends me there 4 times a week, I do it because I like it... I'd go every day if I could 😏 Those days will come once I've set up a tatami area at APTB 😀
Anyway, a teenager there who also got a new belt was very upset and when I asked a friend of mine what's up with him, he said 'His mom prohibited him to go to BJJ classes because he's not doing well at school.' This triggered me and I said 'F...g schools!' Although I know it's not the school who denied him his passion...
SUPPORT STRENGTHS, NOT WEAKNESSES
I went on a 5min rant saying to my friend 'Never put school before your children!' and so on. My friend told me about his 5 year old son who will be starting school this year and when he tried to sit him down to teach him something, the boy wasn't interested and didn't want to do it so he left him alone and didn't try again. He could see what I was talking about...
He's concerned about sending him to school but knows that when you want to take your kid out of the system, social services come knocking at your door. Therefore I told him that the important thing is to know that the system is effed up and even though his son will have to go through it, he mustn't be afraid of bad grades and should always remain on his son's side.
After this conversation I realized that it's almost like his son will be serving a 10+ year prison sentence that he will just have to endure and make the best out of. But it can turn into a life sentence because if he gets caught up in the system, the conditioning received during this time, will be the driving force in the next decades, unless he undoes the damage. You can take the prisoner out of jail but it's not that easy to take prison out of the person.
What are your thoughts on this?
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On Saturday, I graduated from a white to a blue belt in BJJ 😎 I must admit that it feels good but I can also see the relation to a school's grade system as a motivation to do better and keep going. I suppose the difference is that I made the choice to practice BJJ, nobody sends me there 4 times a week, I do it because I like it... I'd go every day if I could 😏 Those days will come once I've set up a tatami area at APTB 😀
Anyway, a teenager there who also got a new belt was very upset and when I asked a friend of mine what's up with him, he said 'His mom prohibited him to go to BJJ classes because he's not doing well at school.' This triggered me and I said 'F...g schools!' Although I know it's not the school who denied him his passion...
SUPPORT STRENGTHS, NOT WEAKNESSES
I went on a 5min rant saying to my friend 'Never put school before your children!' and so on. My friend told me about his 5 year old son who will be starting school this year and when he tried to sit him down to teach him something, the boy wasn't interested and didn't want to do it so he left him alone and didn't try again. He could see what I was talking about...
He's concerned about sending him to school but knows that when you want to take your kid out of the system, social services come knocking at your door. Therefore I told him that the important thing is to know that the system is effed up and even though his son will have to go through it, he mustn't be afraid of bad grades and should always remain on his son's side.
After this conversation I realized that it's almost like his son will be serving a 10+ year prison sentence that he will just have to endure and make the best out of. But it can turn into a life sentence because if he gets caught up in the system, the conditioning received during this time, will be the driving force in the next decades, unless he undoes the damage. You can take the prisoner out of jail but it's not that easy to take prison out of the person.
What are your thoughts on this?
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