Edgar T King on Nostr: #prisonthinking After spending a day in a pretty rough neighborhood yesterday and ...
#prisonthinking
After spending a day in a pretty rough neighborhood yesterday and actually having some time to reflect, I would like to talk about being polite.
Even on the inside of the system, a lot can be accomplished by being polite. You don't have to kiss someone's ass, and you don't have to act like a complete jackwagon either. If you are confident, or at least can fake confidence, and state things that are factual, you can get compliance from most people. For example; "I'm here to ABC, and I need you to do XYZ, would you please start by 123." The exact details of the interaction aren't super important, but by keeping a calm tone and being persistant, you can gain compliance from people you didn't expect it from upon first glance.
Even the person that wants to call you every name he knows, and maybe some he might make up on the spot, can be worn down by being factual, to the point, and polite. (Like Patrick Swayze's speech in Roadhouse)
A good part of this can be attributed to not taking things personally, which I'm sure everyone needs more practice at. Regardless of what is said, unless someone forces you into self-defence, you can maintain your consistent message with firmness, and at least make a best effort to gain compliance.
For those that will completely refuse to cooperate, things may have to escalate to a point where there is no longer a choice given.
This works on inmates, also.......
#grownostr
After spending a day in a pretty rough neighborhood yesterday and actually having some time to reflect, I would like to talk about being polite.
Even on the inside of the system, a lot can be accomplished by being polite. You don't have to kiss someone's ass, and you don't have to act like a complete jackwagon either. If you are confident, or at least can fake confidence, and state things that are factual, you can get compliance from most people. For example; "I'm here to ABC, and I need you to do XYZ, would you please start by 123." The exact details of the interaction aren't super important, but by keeping a calm tone and being persistant, you can gain compliance from people you didn't expect it from upon first glance.
Even the person that wants to call you every name he knows, and maybe some he might make up on the spot, can be worn down by being factual, to the point, and polite. (Like Patrick Swayze's speech in Roadhouse)
A good part of this can be attributed to not taking things personally, which I'm sure everyone needs more practice at. Regardless of what is said, unless someone forces you into self-defence, you can maintain your consistent message with firmness, and at least make a best effort to gain compliance.
For those that will completely refuse to cooperate, things may have to escalate to a point where there is no longer a choice given.
This works on inmates, also.......
#grownostr