mikedilger on Nostr: I'm thinking about that... Shame is a negative social signal meant to correct ...
I'm thinking about that...
Shame is a negative social signal meant to correct someone. You can put shame on someone... "shame on you!" The feeling of shame is then what results within a person from that action. When my mother said "shame on you!" she still loved me, the whole emotional manipulation is meant to correct, to make me better. I've heard Japanese subtly shame people if they eat too much. That makes me want to live there.
In any case, nobody should have ever been shamed for being queer. And society is now trying to apologize by going too far in the opposite direction, holding it up as something to be proud of. We want to make sure everybody feels accepted and isn't held back by misplaced and ineffective feelings of shame. I have marched in pride marches many times and two of my best friends in university were gay. So I'm no stranger to LGBTQ (sorry I missed the Q, I never understood the Q) issues.
But being queer is just something a queer person is. Ideally there wouldn't be any feelings of shame or pride. After all, I've never felt proud that I have five toes on my left foot. Have you?
So if I make a sarcastic or even sardonic remark cynical of today's society, it's only that I feel things have gone too far. Pride "month"? Really? Mothers only get a day.
The pendulum will swing eventually. Always does.
Shame is a negative social signal meant to correct someone. You can put shame on someone... "shame on you!" The feeling of shame is then what results within a person from that action. When my mother said "shame on you!" she still loved me, the whole emotional manipulation is meant to correct, to make me better. I've heard Japanese subtly shame people if they eat too much. That makes me want to live there.
In any case, nobody should have ever been shamed for being queer. And society is now trying to apologize by going too far in the opposite direction, holding it up as something to be proud of. We want to make sure everybody feels accepted and isn't held back by misplaced and ineffective feelings of shame. I have marched in pride marches many times and two of my best friends in university were gay. So I'm no stranger to LGBTQ (sorry I missed the Q, I never understood the Q) issues.
But being queer is just something a queer person is. Ideally there wouldn't be any feelings of shame or pride. After all, I've never felt proud that I have five toes on my left foot. Have you?
So if I make a sarcastic or even sardonic remark cynical of today's society, it's only that I feel things have gone too far. Pride "month"? Really? Mothers only get a day.
The pendulum will swing eventually. Always does.