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Long ago I used to participate in the words.
Many of those I have seen clinically do or did as well.
The words I am thinking of are (but not limited to):
Never worked before so why bother?
The sisters – woulda, coulda, and shoulda.
Cannot do that.
That never worked in the past.
I am not able to.
Other people are different than me.
That may work for them, but no way will it work for me.
I am too different.
You do not get it.
No.
It makes me too anxious to even try.
My skills are not good enough.
This will not work.
Yeah, but it sounds like it is not for me.
Think of how you think. Think of how your assignment of meaning to self, others, work, hobbies, nutrition …. is impacting your life satisfaction.
Albert Ellis was great at adding to this. He viewed anxiety as a verb – a doing. Anxietizing.
Stop feeding the symptoms – stop giving unneeded fuel. The world is upside down and learning skills that lead us to solutions is critical.
Stop. Pause. Breath.
Shift those phrases away from self-destruction, self-limiting, and self-loathing.
Sounds trite and cheap but the linguistics of remaining a victim of self and others is either keeping one locked up or allowing one to break that cycle.
We give permission slips for every single action we take. Examples:
To study, learn, and explore (anything in any manner). To stop at stop signs. To accept help from others or not. To remain teachable or not. To take a bad job to survive or not. To fight for a better job via learning and developing dependability traits, to become the opposite of the person that is holding you down, to take more positive risks, to place yourself near better people, to try new foods, to exercise, to eat crappy fast food, to develop a new relationship with …. everything.
For me, it is about relationship building. Developing a sense of failure. A sense that when I fail, I have learned. I have learned I can fail without shame or guilt being fed to me by myself. A sense that I have no care of what other thinks about me and my actions. A sense that I am being true to myself. A sense that I am ok with the path I am on and if not, I am ok shifting course. I am perfectly content to fail.
By learning to fail one learns to expand interests and skills. It is the essence of self-improvement.
It is about removing the sets of failure linguistics.
Long ago I used to participate in the words.
Many of those I have seen clinically do or did as well.
The words I am thinking of are (but not limited to):
Never worked before so why bother?
The sisters – woulda, coulda, and shoulda.
Cannot do that.
That never worked in the past.
I am not able to.
Other people are different than me.
That may work for them, but no way will it work for me.
I am too different.
You do not get it.
No.
It makes me too anxious to even try.
My skills are not good enough.
This will not work.
Yeah, but it sounds like it is not for me.
Think of how you think. Think of how your assignment of meaning to self, others, work, hobbies, nutrition …. is impacting your life satisfaction.
Albert Ellis was great at adding to this. He viewed anxiety as a verb – a doing. Anxietizing.
Stop feeding the symptoms – stop giving unneeded fuel. The world is upside down and learning skills that lead us to solutions is critical.
Stop. Pause. Breath.
Shift those phrases away from self-destruction, self-limiting, and self-loathing.
Sounds trite and cheap but the linguistics of remaining a victim of self and others is either keeping one locked up or allowing one to break that cycle.
We give permission slips for every single action we take. Examples:
To study, learn, and explore (anything in any manner). To stop at stop signs. To accept help from others or not. To remain teachable or not. To take a bad job to survive or not. To fight for a better job via learning and developing dependability traits, to become the opposite of the person that is holding you down, to take more positive risks, to place yourself near better people, to try new foods, to exercise, to eat crappy fast food, to develop a new relationship with …. everything.
For me, it is about relationship building. Developing a sense of failure. A sense that when I fail, I have learned. I have learned I can fail without shame or guilt being fed to me by myself. A sense that I have no care of what other thinks about me and my actions. A sense that I am being true to myself. A sense that I am ok with the path I am on and if not, I am ok shifting course. I am perfectly content to fail.
By learning to fail one learns to expand interests and skills. It is the essence of self-improvement.
It is about removing the sets of failure linguistics.