Vars on Nostr: shitting on people for saying picking a server is hard is a real bad look. Its not ...
shitting on people for saying picking a server is hard is a real bad look. Its not even that theres no directory, its that there is no immediately apparent criteria by which to evaluate instances. And once you figure out your own criteria, moderation policies are often not listed, lots of instance rules amount to 'dont be a dickhole here' which is great but gives me no information about how or if thats enforced. Its not even straightforward how to, as an active account with hundreds of connections, find an instance to migrate to that preserves my connections.
Pick an instance based on your interests is actually some of the worst advice, but better advice isnt easy to give because sometimes the only information about an instance you have access to is an 'about' blurb that says something like 'for musicians' and might or might not have info on the country the server is located in and what laws need to be adhered to.
Its not a matter of federated social media itself or users being dumb shits. Its again, a lack of focus on anyone but an elite user core that could give a fuck about anyone else and if its useable to them, and centralization of power over decisionmaking.
Its bonkers to me how much incredible work moderators do around here and not only is it not well celebrated, theres no way to simply highlight good moderation as a staple in about pages for instances.
Pick an instance based on your interests is actually some of the worst advice, but better advice isnt easy to give because sometimes the only information about an instance you have access to is an 'about' blurb that says something like 'for musicians' and might or might not have info on the country the server is located in and what laws need to be adhered to.
Its not a matter of federated social media itself or users being dumb shits. Its again, a lack of focus on anyone but an elite user core that could give a fuck about anyone else and if its useable to them, and centralization of power over decisionmaking.
Its bonkers to me how much incredible work moderators do around here and not only is it not well celebrated, theres no way to simply highlight good moderation as a staple in about pages for instances.