sobercoach on Nostr: GET SOBER 08: THE BALANCE OF BEHAVIOUR In terms of sobriety, the two minds are ...
GET SOBER 08: THE BALANCE OF BEHAVIOUR
In terms of sobriety, the two minds are fragmented. They want different things. And the subconscious is the one that throws its weight around to get what it wants in the long run. Changing it is like turning around a tanker. That’s the bad news, but you already know this. The good news is that it has weaknesses: it’s not that smart. It has no ability to think for itself. It has no ability to accept or reject ideas. It just accepts whatever gets into it. (We’ll cover how things get into the subconscious later.) The conscious mind on the other hand is more agile. More cunning. It can strategise and plan. It’s just that it’s fickle, weak, and has very little stamina. But if it understands itself and the opponent, knows the territory, and can anticipate what’s coming, it can win. It’s like jiu jitsu: leverage and technique allow a smaller competitor to overcome the larger. So let’s start by understanding the dynamics at play to see who wins the behaviour game, when, and why.
--PLAY TIME
For most of your life, you weren’t even aware there was a fight. Your conscious mind thought that going out and getting wasted with your friends was an excellent idea. It was a badge of honour to down several shots, and because all of your friends were doing it, your subconscious was into it too. Your subconscious and conscious minds were aligned and were essentially in cahoots to beat you up. Behaviour is firmly balanced towards drinking.
--MAKE IT STOP
This dynamic can only go on until the damage is hurting and it’s not funny anymore. The conscious mind realises it’s got a big problem: it’s in the cage with a 500-pound gorilla and it likes to play. The door is locked and you are going to duke this out one way or another. You need to put the toys away. You don’t have the skills or strength to deal with this. Plus, you’re absolutely exhausted from all the fun you’ve been having before you realised that it isn’t ending anytime soon. The behaviour is firmly balanced towards drinking. But hope is here.
Until the next time...
But before I go, remember: working on sobriety is an iterative process. We never fail, only learn. Be kind to yourself and never give up.
Marky
#sobriety #sober #getsober #sobercoach #sobercoaching #sobrietycoach #sobrietycoaching #quitbooze #quitdrinking #stopdrinking #alcohol #alcoholfree #getsober08
In terms of sobriety, the two minds are fragmented. They want different things. And the subconscious is the one that throws its weight around to get what it wants in the long run. Changing it is like turning around a tanker. That’s the bad news, but you already know this. The good news is that it has weaknesses: it’s not that smart. It has no ability to think for itself. It has no ability to accept or reject ideas. It just accepts whatever gets into it. (We’ll cover how things get into the subconscious later.) The conscious mind on the other hand is more agile. More cunning. It can strategise and plan. It’s just that it’s fickle, weak, and has very little stamina. But if it understands itself and the opponent, knows the territory, and can anticipate what’s coming, it can win. It’s like jiu jitsu: leverage and technique allow a smaller competitor to overcome the larger. So let’s start by understanding the dynamics at play to see who wins the behaviour game, when, and why.
--PLAY TIME
For most of your life, you weren’t even aware there was a fight. Your conscious mind thought that going out and getting wasted with your friends was an excellent idea. It was a badge of honour to down several shots, and because all of your friends were doing it, your subconscious was into it too. Your subconscious and conscious minds were aligned and were essentially in cahoots to beat you up. Behaviour is firmly balanced towards drinking.
--MAKE IT STOP
This dynamic can only go on until the damage is hurting and it’s not funny anymore. The conscious mind realises it’s got a big problem: it’s in the cage with a 500-pound gorilla and it likes to play. The door is locked and you are going to duke this out one way or another. You need to put the toys away. You don’t have the skills or strength to deal with this. Plus, you’re absolutely exhausted from all the fun you’ve been having before you realised that it isn’t ending anytime soon. The behaviour is firmly balanced towards drinking. But hope is here.
Until the next time...
But before I go, remember: working on sobriety is an iterative process. We never fail, only learn. Be kind to yourself and never give up.
Marky
#sobriety #sober #getsober #sobercoach #sobercoaching #sobrietycoach #sobrietycoaching #quitbooze #quitdrinking #stopdrinking #alcohol #alcoholfree #getsober08