victor on Nostr: I've had it explained to me like this...A woman (any woman) keeps, in her mind, a ...

I've had it explained to me like this...A woman (any woman) keeps, in her mind, a record of every negative thing she can think of about you. Shameful things you've said and done, things she didn't approve of, or even just times when you were mostly okay but (she thought) you should have been stellar instead. It's like a database.

At the right moment, usually during an argument or when she's trying to make you feel small, she lays it all out on a table in her mind, and she picks and chooses which things she thinks will damage you the most.

A woman who can keep herself from acting that way is rare, but they do exist.