a libi rose on Nostr: when someone says they left friends and family behind when they quit meta and now ...

when someone says they left friends and family behind when they quit meta and now they just text them, i can only imagine they mean they just text with their closest ties - who texts with people they aren't close to? for me, close ties have never needed a particular platform - that isn't the problem. it's the loose ties that are important. i struggle with maintaining more than a few close ties because my brain and i are in a constant battle, but i have hundreds of loose ones, and it's loose ties that have formed community as often as close ones. when i lived in a small town and knew everyone it was different - i would walk down to the coffee shop on a bad day and know *someone* well enough to have a chat for a bit. and it's often those loose ties who reach out to say hey over whatever platform now, or who share a show or an event that i want to go to, or whatever else. and while i can maybe convince close ties to switch platforms, i wouldn't bother because I'm connected to those folks in multiple ways and most of them don't really care to be online. and loose ties don't work that way.