cameri on Nostr: Depends on what you mean by best. IMO A great man for a long term relationship is one ...
Depends on what you mean by best.
IMO A great man for a long term relationship is one who many of these: emotionally regulated and available, secure in his attachment style, reliable, respectful, responsible, accountable, dependable, generous, kind, able to deal with conflict, open to individual personal growth.
You will find men like that in every single city. However the more a man checks those boxes, the rarer and coveted he is, and you can’t really gauge whether they embody any of those qualities just because they live in a particular city.
One question we must answer (specially if we want the best) to ourselves first is: are we truly the best person for the best out there? Have we considered what traits and characteristics I must have so that person would be interested in me? I invite you to self-reflect on that because we often think about what we want not what that potential person would want from us. Closing that gap is the work we must do.
IMO A great man for a long term relationship is one who many of these: emotionally regulated and available, secure in his attachment style, reliable, respectful, responsible, accountable, dependable, generous, kind, able to deal with conflict, open to individual personal growth.
You will find men like that in every single city. However the more a man checks those boxes, the rarer and coveted he is, and you can’t really gauge whether they embody any of those qualities just because they live in a particular city.
One question we must answer (specially if we want the best) to ourselves first is: are we truly the best person for the best out there? Have we considered what traits and characteristics I must have so that person would be interested in me? I invite you to self-reflect on that because we often think about what we want not what that potential person would want from us. Closing that gap is the work we must do.