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Unrealistic Expectations
I got in trouble with my wife for stating something that seems obvious to me (and many other people):
Many women have unrealistic expectations when trying to find a mate or partner.
To put it bluntly, many women misjudge their market value. They think they are an 8 when they are a 5, for example. I am not discussing just their physical attractiveness, but the whole package (beauty, age, purity, values, ethics, income, height, weight, intelligence, charisma, etc). Remember, the value that I am referring to is market value, not their intrinsic value. Market value is assigned by all the other people in the market, not by the person in question.
This leads to problems when looking for a partner. One big reason is that many men will "date" down if it means getting laid even though they have no intention of ever being in a serious relationship. So a man who is a 9 might take a girl who is a 5 home from the club for sex. He might even come back a few times and/or lead her to believe that it means more to him than just easy sex. This leads many woman to overvalue themselves (as far as the dating/marriage scene is concerned) and look for more people at that unattainable level in the future.
So, getting laid by a douchbag 9 disqualifies a good 7 from being considered as a mate and the woman remains alone, bitter, and confused as to why she can not find a good man.
There are exceptions to the rule. Of course there are. If you are one, then congrats, but that does not disprove the rule.
Most women have at least one guy in "the friend zone" who would be completely devoted to her if she gave him a chance.
Tell me I am wrong...
#InCel #Dating #Relationship #Marriage #Spouse
I got in trouble with my wife for stating something that seems obvious to me (and many other people):
Many women have unrealistic expectations when trying to find a mate or partner.
To put it bluntly, many women misjudge their market value. They think they are an 8 when they are a 5, for example. I am not discussing just their physical attractiveness, but the whole package (beauty, age, purity, values, ethics, income, height, weight, intelligence, charisma, etc). Remember, the value that I am referring to is market value, not their intrinsic value. Market value is assigned by all the other people in the market, not by the person in question.
This leads to problems when looking for a partner. One big reason is that many men will "date" down if it means getting laid even though they have no intention of ever being in a serious relationship. So a man who is a 9 might take a girl who is a 5 home from the club for sex. He might even come back a few times and/or lead her to believe that it means more to him than just easy sex. This leads many woman to overvalue themselves (as far as the dating/marriage scene is concerned) and look for more people at that unattainable level in the future.
So, getting laid by a douchbag 9 disqualifies a good 7 from being considered as a mate and the woman remains alone, bitter, and confused as to why she can not find a good man.
There are exceptions to the rule. Of course there are. If you are one, then congrats, but that does not disprove the rule.
Most women have at least one guy in "the friend zone" who would be completely devoted to her if she gave him a chance.
Tell me I am wrong...
#InCel #Dating #Relationship #Marriage #Spouse