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Mad respect for Rebecca for demanding respect to the bully’s face, in the moment.
One of the most important skills parents can teach their children is how to stand up for themselves *in the moment.* Bullies count on people being too embarrassed or afraid to “rock the boat.” Then the moment passes, and people wonder who is telling the truth, if it really happened that way, why the bully’s victim doesn’t “just let it go.”
Children need to know that sometimes “getting an adult” isn’t possible. Often the adult is on the bully’s side. If you don’t stand up for yourself, few others will. The miraculous thing is, though, when you *do* stand up for yourself, often the powerful—the “adults”—shift allegiances: they turn from the bully’s side to yours. But that doesn’t happen without a fight.
In the moment. To their face.
It’s much harder to learn this as an adult, but it can be done.
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One of the most important skills parents can teach their children is how to stand up for themselves *in the moment.* Bullies count on people being too embarrassed or afraid to “rock the boat.” Then the moment passes, and people wonder who is telling the truth, if it really happened that way, why the bully’s victim doesn’t “just let it go.”
Children need to know that sometimes “getting an adult” isn’t possible. Often the adult is on the bully’s side. If you don’t stand up for yourself, few others will. The miraculous thing is, though, when you *do* stand up for yourself, often the powerful—the “adults”—shift allegiances: they turn from the bully’s side to yours. But that doesn’t happen without a fight.
In the moment. To their face.
It’s much harder to learn this as an adult, but it can be done.
twitter.com/joshsmithhosts…