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I once dated a guy whose sister got married to a guy who cheated on her the night before their wedding. he had cheated on her multiple times before that. a few years after the wedding, they had a son and shortly after got divorced. before I left my ex, I sat down with his sister to say goodbye and I asked her whether she regretted marrying her ex-husband. she said, "no, because then I wouldn't have had my son."
low-key, I empathized with her – having a kid would be the greatest joy – but my main thought was, "why not just marry someone who won't cheat on you repeatedly and ruin your life?" because the signs were all there and she ignored them out of fear for not being able to find someone who loves her enough NOT to cheat.
no, you can't take back the past but if the patterns are already there then a child isn't going to change that.
I would personally rather get married and have one child later in life than deal with all that, because I want my child to know his or her father and never be abandoned by either parent.
marriage is the single most important relationship you'll ever have for a reason: 1) it forces you to face yourself, and 2) you are now accountable to your equal.
I think that decision should be made wisely before even thinking about children.
low-key, I empathized with her – having a kid would be the greatest joy – but my main thought was, "why not just marry someone who won't cheat on you repeatedly and ruin your life?" because the signs were all there and she ignored them out of fear for not being able to find someone who loves her enough NOT to cheat.
no, you can't take back the past but if the patterns are already there then a child isn't going to change that.
I would personally rather get married and have one child later in life than deal with all that, because I want my child to know his or her father and never be abandoned by either parent.
marriage is the single most important relationship you'll ever have for a reason: 1) it forces you to face yourself, and 2) you are now accountable to your equal.
I think that decision should be made wisely before even thinking about children.