Asta on Nostr: Some sort of opening for a Burda sewing magazine from February 1994. "Someone needs ...
Some sort of opening for a Burda sewing magazine from February 1994.
"Someone needs to guide the child along the right path."
Apparently mothers are incapable of teaching their children morals and fathers only love their children if they're good enough.
A weird thing to read 30 years after it's publication, and what does it have to do with sewing?!
ALT TEXT (as it did not fit in the description box. There might be some errors as it was copied directly from the image with Google lens):
"At no other time in history could a newborn baby expect greater physical comfort, familial attention or material security than today. However, many of the children born in our times are deprived of one of their greatest needs, namely, the need to have a father as well as a mother. In the past 15 years the number of children born to single women has nearly doubled. This means that not only is the number of single mothers rising steadily, but the number of children growing up without a father is increasing as well. There are many reasons for this development. For example, in Germany there are roughly 6 million single women. Our liberal society today is more receptive to unmarried mothers than ever before. There's no reason why a single woman should not have a child on her own if she wants to.
Another vital factor is the financial independence of today's single young women. Successful professionals and women who have devoted their youthful years to building careers certainly have the financial means to provide adequately for their offspring. And, many people firmly believe that no father is better than a bad one. Of course, there is a certain element of truth to this theory. Children who are constantly confronted by fights and arguments between their parents are not getting a very positive impression of married life. There are plenty of people whose negative childhood experiences affect their relationships to their partners for the rest of their lives.
However, the question is, can a woman, no matter how loving and attentive, provide her child with some of the things only a father can give? Some single mothers are completely convinced their children are not missing out on anything. I believe such children do miss something. A mother loves her child unconditionally regardless of its age or situation. Fathers, however, put conditions on their love. A child who does not live up to its father's expectations may not get the love and attention it needs. This behavioural dichotomy is necessary for the child's development. The subject of children growing up without a father is one that has been extensively researched. Numerous books have been written on the matter, and all seem to reach the same conclusion: children need a father. Children without fathers start suffering the consequences at birth. Such children are less alert and aware of their environment than children surrounded by both parents. This is explained by the fact that they are denied the higher expectations and demands of their fathers. Fathers challenge their children simply by putting conditions on their relationship.
The father's role in promoting self-assurance and independence is also vital. Whereas mothers tend to be overprotective and limit the children's independence, fathers allow their children greater freedom of movement and experimentation which in turn helps children learn to make decisions and to fend for themselves. Children whose fathers take an active role in their upbringing usually get good grades at school. Children who have trouble with reading and maths often have fathers who are ambitious and abusive if the child does not perform to standard.
Though some fathers expect too much of their children and put too much pressure on them, children do need someone to challenge them and push to perform beyond the average. Moral values, ethical behaviour, high standards of achievement are all things that are not developed automatically as a child grows up. Someone needs to guide the child along the right path. Though there are situations when it's better for a child to grow up without a father, every child needs the love, attention and expectations only a father can provide."
"Someone needs to guide the child along the right path."
Apparently mothers are incapable of teaching their children morals and fathers only love their children if they're good enough.
A weird thing to read 30 years after it's publication, and what does it have to do with sewing?!
ALT TEXT (as it did not fit in the description box. There might be some errors as it was copied directly from the image with Google lens):
"At no other time in history could a newborn baby expect greater physical comfort, familial attention or material security than today. However, many of the children born in our times are deprived of one of their greatest needs, namely, the need to have a father as well as a mother. In the past 15 years the number of children born to single women has nearly doubled. This means that not only is the number of single mothers rising steadily, but the number of children growing up without a father is increasing as well. There are many reasons for this development. For example, in Germany there are roughly 6 million single women. Our liberal society today is more receptive to unmarried mothers than ever before. There's no reason why a single woman should not have a child on her own if she wants to.
Another vital factor is the financial independence of today's single young women. Successful professionals and women who have devoted their youthful years to building careers certainly have the financial means to provide adequately for their offspring. And, many people firmly believe that no father is better than a bad one. Of course, there is a certain element of truth to this theory. Children who are constantly confronted by fights and arguments between their parents are not getting a very positive impression of married life. There are plenty of people whose negative childhood experiences affect their relationships to their partners for the rest of their lives.
However, the question is, can a woman, no matter how loving and attentive, provide her child with some of the things only a father can give? Some single mothers are completely convinced their children are not missing out on anything. I believe such children do miss something. A mother loves her child unconditionally regardless of its age or situation. Fathers, however, put conditions on their love. A child who does not live up to its father's expectations may not get the love and attention it needs. This behavioural dichotomy is necessary for the child's development. The subject of children growing up without a father is one that has been extensively researched. Numerous books have been written on the matter, and all seem to reach the same conclusion: children need a father. Children without fathers start suffering the consequences at birth. Such children are less alert and aware of their environment than children surrounded by both parents. This is explained by the fact that they are denied the higher expectations and demands of their fathers. Fathers challenge their children simply by putting conditions on their relationship.
The father's role in promoting self-assurance and independence is also vital. Whereas mothers tend to be overprotective and limit the children's independence, fathers allow their children greater freedom of movement and experimentation which in turn helps children learn to make decisions and to fend for themselves. Children whose fathers take an active role in their upbringing usually get good grades at school. Children who have trouble with reading and maths often have fathers who are ambitious and abusive if the child does not perform to standard.
Though some fathers expect too much of their children and put too much pressure on them, children do need someone to challenge them and push to perform beyond the average. Moral values, ethical behaviour, high standards of achievement are all things that are not developed automatically as a child grows up. Someone needs to guide the child along the right path. Though there are situations when it's better for a child to grow up without a father, every child needs the love, attention and expectations only a father can provide."