Cait the Encourageable on Nostr: I hate this word, hugboxing. It positions our communities as habitual liars, spewing ...

I hate this word, hugboxing. It positions our communities as habitual liars, spewing any positive lie out there to make our friends feel better.

I think this is a negative term for our community, because it provides a convenient excuse for dysphoria to hang its lies on. "Oh, I'm not really pretty, every single one of my alleged friends is lying to me" is not what I'd call a result.

Here's a radical idea: believe your damn friends! Most of us are not habitual liars, any more than you are. If someone offers you a compliment in good faith, take it in good faith. Especially from someone who's established themselves as a friend.

If you can't trust your friends, either you need better friends, or you need some help learning to trust (again, maybe?).

Friends don't accuse one another of hugboxing. It's just a fancy word for lying, anyway.

Uso ja nai, MIhashi-kun.