fiatjaf on Nostr: No one has to run these things. I don't run them. They have nothing to do with the ...

No one has to run these things. I don't run them. They have nothing to do with the current discussion.

Your client can always suggest or even pick a default relay for you. Suggestions can be based on your friends' choices or something else, or just be hardcoded (which is nothing but a suggestion from the developer whom you're already trusting to some extent anyway).