calvincroll on Nostr: My wife deals with some tough anxiety issues, especially around taking care of pets, ...
My wife deals with some tough anxiety issues, especially around taking care of pets, food prep, etc. So that was one thing that made us reluctant.
We also spent years working as leaders at an at-risk youth program. We met some parents who definitely were the reason their kids were struggling, but we also met really good parents who were dealt an incredibly rough hand. I think that put us off the idea of kids, just knowing that you could get a life-wrecking experience even if you did everything right.
I'll be honest, I do wish I had children sometimes. My niece is an incredible source of joy in my life, and I can't imagine how much greater that joy would be if I had a child of my own.
But, we are in our late forties, and that window has passed us by. I try to find other ways to be of service to others to find that meaning. Isn't that the real reason kids are so amazing? Being presented with a ton of motivation to give of yourself on their behalf... having something more important than yourself? I have to find that in other ways. It's tough, but doable.
We also spent years working as leaders at an at-risk youth program. We met some parents who definitely were the reason their kids were struggling, but we also met really good parents who were dealt an incredibly rough hand. I think that put us off the idea of kids, just knowing that you could get a life-wrecking experience even if you did everything right.
I'll be honest, I do wish I had children sometimes. My niece is an incredible source of joy in my life, and I can't imagine how much greater that joy would be if I had a child of my own.
But, we are in our late forties, and that window has passed us by. I try to find other ways to be of service to others to find that meaning. Isn't that the real reason kids are so amazing? Being presented with a ton of motivation to give of yourself on their behalf... having something more important than yourself? I have to find that in other ways. It's tough, but doable.