bostonwine on Nostr: Feeling a lot of respect and appreciation to all the dads out there, on nostr and ...
Feeling a lot of respect and appreciation to all the dads out there, on nostr and otherwise (but especially on nostr).
A few years ago, my cousin asked me what I believed my purpose in life was. I surprised him (and myself) with the answer:
I said, “On the deepest level, I feel called to someday be a really good dad. Bringing light into the world through my professional journey is how I usually answer, but my family is how I truly wish to leave my mark on the world”.
My wife and I are hoping/planning to have a bunch of kids. Not quite yet, but not that long from now. We have a few logistical boxes that need (non-optionally) to be checked off, but otherwise, it’s nearly time to begin.
I have been getting more ready, emotionally and psychologically, in recent years. Learning to take care of myself more reliably (I still have work to do there, but who doesn’t?), and gradually building deeper stability in terms of family, community, and finances.
Through much of my twenties, I (correctly) felt that I wasn’t ready.
That I had more growing up to do.
That I needed (and wanted) to focus on my marriage and build the strongest and most beautiful relationship possible with my wife.
That my career path was still forming, solidifying into the “bigger picture” that I could feel but not yet see.
Today, I feel that I’ve completed many of these prerequisites, and/or they are in motion, going “according to plan”.
I don’t feel entirely ready for children, to be completely selfless in the all-consuming way that parenthood demands. I’m excited for when the time comes, even if it’s not quite *time* yet. That said, I know that if I were to discover today that a child was on its way, I would be delighted and rise to the occasion.
How’s this for a sign that I’m ready:
Today is Father’s Day, and I’m contemplating all of the above, and writing down and sharing these musings here, rather than reflecting on my childhood and relationship with my own dad. That’s new.
Happy Father’s Day 🫂
#grownostr #growyourself #fathersday #plebchain
A few years ago, my cousin asked me what I believed my purpose in life was. I surprised him (and myself) with the answer:
I said, “On the deepest level, I feel called to someday be a really good dad. Bringing light into the world through my professional journey is how I usually answer, but my family is how I truly wish to leave my mark on the world”.
My wife and I are hoping/planning to have a bunch of kids. Not quite yet, but not that long from now. We have a few logistical boxes that need (non-optionally) to be checked off, but otherwise, it’s nearly time to begin.
I have been getting more ready, emotionally and psychologically, in recent years. Learning to take care of myself more reliably (I still have work to do there, but who doesn’t?), and gradually building deeper stability in terms of family, community, and finances.
Through much of my twenties, I (correctly) felt that I wasn’t ready.
That I had more growing up to do.
That I needed (and wanted) to focus on my marriage and build the strongest and most beautiful relationship possible with my wife.
That my career path was still forming, solidifying into the “bigger picture” that I could feel but not yet see.
Today, I feel that I’ve completed many of these prerequisites, and/or they are in motion, going “according to plan”.
I don’t feel entirely ready for children, to be completely selfless in the all-consuming way that parenthood demands. I’m excited for when the time comes, even if it’s not quite *time* yet. That said, I know that if I were to discover today that a child was on its way, I would be delighted and rise to the occasion.
How’s this for a sign that I’m ready:
Today is Father’s Day, and I’m contemplating all of the above, and writing down and sharing these musings here, rather than reflecting on my childhood and relationship with my own dad. That’s new.
Happy Father’s Day 🫂
#grownostr #growyourself #fathersday #plebchain