Flay on Nostr: Friend of mine irl gave similar advice: “Don’t say, hey you want to do something ...
Friend of mine irl gave similar advice: “Don’t say, hey you want to do something sometime? Say that you ARE going to do something and ask if they want to go.”
Would also mirror finding a hobby or pursuit that already attracts the type of person you would want to be with. Hiking is a great option because it selects for fitness and enduring moderate discomfort while sorting out urbanites and the pharmacologically inclined (also one of the few remaining white dominated spaces). Potential outdoors enthusiast PSA: you don’t HAVE to drive a Subaru and be decked out in REI DEI sustainability shit to do it.
Would also mirror finding a hobby or pursuit that already attracts the type of person you would want to be with. Hiking is a great option because it selects for fitness and enduring moderate discomfort while sorting out urbanites and the pharmacologically inclined (also one of the few remaining white dominated spaces). Potential outdoors enthusiast PSA: you don’t HAVE to drive a Subaru and be decked out in REI DEI sustainability shit to do it.