MsMerope on Nostr: I'm reading some of the responses to #Helene from people who had the power to act but ...
I'm reading some of the responses to #Helene from people who had the power to act but didn't and I'm realizing something.
I teach little kids. When one child hurts another I do NOT demand that the hurter apologize.
I facilitate the hurt child's opportunity to tell the other child
"I don't like like that!"
"Don't hit me!"
then
the hurter must DO something for the person they hurt- get tissues, get and or hold an icepack, bandaid etc...
I've seen too many times when children are ONLY told "say sorry" and it becomes a panacea for anything they do. They can hit, push, pinch, spit... so long as they say "sorry".
I've realized this morning that "thoughts and prayers" is the grown-up equivalent. Instead of taking responsibility and/or DOING something to fix the situation. As soon as people say "our thoughts and prayers are with...." they seem to think they have absolved themselves of any guilt, responsibility, or duty to act.
We need to stop accepting "thoughts and prayers" as an answer to anything.
I teach little kids. When one child hurts another I do NOT demand that the hurter apologize.
I facilitate the hurt child's opportunity to tell the other child
"I don't like like that!"
"Don't hit me!"
then
the hurter must DO something for the person they hurt- get tissues, get and or hold an icepack, bandaid etc...
I've seen too many times when children are ONLY told "say sorry" and it becomes a panacea for anything they do. They can hit, push, pinch, spit... so long as they say "sorry".
I've realized this morning that "thoughts and prayers" is the grown-up equivalent. Instead of taking responsibility and/or DOING something to fix the situation. As soon as people say "our thoughts and prayers are with...." they seem to think they have absolved themselves of any guilt, responsibility, or duty to act.
We need to stop accepting "thoughts and prayers" as an answer to anything.