steepdawn on Nostr: And if you don't trust third parties, there is an open-source, self-hosted ...

And if you don't trust third parties, there is an open-source, self-hosted implementation of the Tailscale control server
https://github.com/juanfont/headscale

Or just run your own wireguard server. It's pretty simple actually
https://blog.bitcoinlizard.net/2022/04/02/vps-passthrough-hosting/