Leather Cub Andrew on Nostr: One of the things that I find invalidating especially within my own scene in the ...
One of the things that I find invalidating especially within my own scene in the LGBTQIA2 community is the notion of "one size fits all" strategies... my social issues aren't about being afraid of someone, but the reinforcement of poor responses that at times make me want to give up
Especially when taking neurodivergent conditions into account which are invisible disabilities that many people don't take seriously (not that they even take physical disabilities seriously to begin with).
Sometimes it feels like an uphill battle educating kinksters in the LGBTQIA2 community regarding issues that I personally have related to social cues, sensory issues (like overstimulation and/or understimulation), the issue with eye contact, unintentionally stepping on someone's foot in a crowded bar, potential tripping over floor unevenness, "clumsiness ", etc all comes into play when I "tough it out" when masking thus draining my spoons. Sometimes this feeling of invalidation and lack of acceptance contributes to feelings of wishing I never came out, frustration, exclusion, depression, or any of the above. Rejection sensitivity is also another issue.
I just really wish that more of us can be more open with our struggles where they are and can be more open about our identities rather than worrying about "scaring the locals" due to the lack of societal acceptance.
Especially when taking neurodivergent conditions into account which are invisible disabilities that many people don't take seriously (not that they even take physical disabilities seriously to begin with).
Sometimes it feels like an uphill battle educating kinksters in the LGBTQIA2 community regarding issues that I personally have related to social cues, sensory issues (like overstimulation and/or understimulation), the issue with eye contact, unintentionally stepping on someone's foot in a crowded bar, potential tripping over floor unevenness, "clumsiness ", etc all comes into play when I "tough it out" when masking thus draining my spoons. Sometimes this feeling of invalidation and lack of acceptance contributes to feelings of wishing I never came out, frustration, exclusion, depression, or any of the above. Rejection sensitivity is also another issue.
I just really wish that more of us can be more open with our struggles where they are and can be more open about our identities rather than worrying about "scaring the locals" due to the lack of societal acceptance.