Alp on Nostr: "When the Qur’an describes the ideal Islamic relationship between a husband and ...
"When the Qur’an describes the ideal Islamic relationship between a husband and wife, it uses the terms rahma (mercy) and muwadda (affectionate love). Interestingly, the Qur’an uses the word hubb (love) in other contexts, including in the story of Zulaykha and Yusuf (AS), where Zulaykha's feelings are described as an infatuated and obsessive kind of love. This distinction between hubb and muwadda is crucial in understanding the foundations of a strong marital relationship in Islam.
The difference between hubb (love) and muwadda lies in their nature. Hubb refers to feelings and emotions, a state of being "in love." It is a condition that fluctuates, coming and going depending on circumstances and emotional states.
Muwadda, on the other hand, is a deeper, more enduring form of affection. It is not only emotional but also relational, encompassing love, compassion, and kindness. It is consistent and sustained as long as the right elements- such as respect, service, care, and mutual understanding—are present in the relationship.
While hubb can be fleeting and sometimes illusory, muwadda is more stable, grounded in compassionate behaviour and mutual regard.
In today’s age of emotivism, where Hollywood and Bollywood have glorified romanticised and unrealistic notions of love, we see many marriages falter when the emotional intensity fades. Many people, after years of marriage, claim they no longer "love" their spouse, even when there are no significant issues in the relationship. This often happens because their concept of marriage is rooted in the fleeting emotions of hubb. When that emotional high diminishes or life’s challenges arise, they feel disconnected and are tempted to give up, sometimes regretting it later.
Islam offers a more profound and sustainable vision of marriage, based on muwadda and rahma. These qualities are not dependent on fluctuating feelings but on consistent acts of care, service, kindness, and responsibility towards one another. By understanding this distinction and cultivating muwadda in their relationships, couples can build marriages that endure the ups and downs of life, rooted in something far more meaningful than the temporary emotional highs promoted by modern romantic ideals."
Source: Muslim Psychologist (MP) on Instagram
The difference between hubb (love) and muwadda lies in their nature. Hubb refers to feelings and emotions, a state of being "in love." It is a condition that fluctuates, coming and going depending on circumstances and emotional states.
Muwadda, on the other hand, is a deeper, more enduring form of affection. It is not only emotional but also relational, encompassing love, compassion, and kindness. It is consistent and sustained as long as the right elements- such as respect, service, care, and mutual understanding—are present in the relationship.
While hubb can be fleeting and sometimes illusory, muwadda is more stable, grounded in compassionate behaviour and mutual regard.
In today’s age of emotivism, where Hollywood and Bollywood have glorified romanticised and unrealistic notions of love, we see many marriages falter when the emotional intensity fades. Many people, after years of marriage, claim they no longer "love" their spouse, even when there are no significant issues in the relationship. This often happens because their concept of marriage is rooted in the fleeting emotions of hubb. When that emotional high diminishes or life’s challenges arise, they feel disconnected and are tempted to give up, sometimes regretting it later.
Islam offers a more profound and sustainable vision of marriage, based on muwadda and rahma. These qualities are not dependent on fluctuating feelings but on consistent acts of care, service, kindness, and responsibility towards one another. By understanding this distinction and cultivating muwadda in their relationships, couples can build marriages that endure the ups and downs of life, rooted in something far more meaningful than the temporary emotional highs promoted by modern romantic ideals."
Source: Muslim Psychologist (MP) on Instagram