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What is the nature of a conflict ? Does he attack you on a personal level (character) or he doubts your professionalism/skills ? Anyway , if you totally can’t not work with him, minimize direct contacts tete-a-tete. Make all the communication traceable, only in writing, so it’s clear who is doing and is responsible for what exactly, what are the objectives and how you measure results. Let him know also that you are open for a feedback but in writing so you can analyse it. I don’t know the details , so this piece of advice is general af (also more suitable for corpo environment, if you work at the construction site - prob it’s just better to take him out for a drink and just ask directly WTF, dude ?:)) but in my experience ppl who make us feel “uncomfortable” point out to our weaknesses or mirror something that also exists in us. It doesn’t mean you should just accept the situation, but understanding what is your lesson here helps. Sometimes, if you really “got” the lesson, person or a source of a conflict disappears automatically :) take care 🫂
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