Ricki Is Not A Wizard Tarr on Nostr: I saw this posted on Tumblr, and the comments were very angry, and admittedly I was ...

I saw this posted on Tumblr, and the comments were very angry, and admittedly I was thrown by the title at first too. I read through it though, and couldn't find a lie, this is just stuff a good Relationship Therapist would tell you:

What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture"

the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love

the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities

the idea that you should meet your partner's every need, and if you don’t, either you're inadequate or they're too needy

the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else

the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity
the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship

the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on

the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life

the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself